The older you get the more you will realize that your friends are people who have made mistakes and bad decisions and even just fucked up and hurt people.
And obviously your boundaries with your friends are completely up to you but you do need to recognize that if you cut off everyone who has done something wrong, you’re going to end up with no friends (and you yourself will have also fucked up in your life, and not lived up to those impossible standards either).
I’ve found it’s much more constructive to learn how to say “hey dude, that was massively fucked up of you,” because most people are really willing to say “yeah, it was, I need to work on it/not do it again/apologize and make things right” ESPECIALLY if they are hearing it from you as their friend.
Sometimes the kindest thing you can do for another person is to tell them that they’ve done something wrong, help them fix it, and stay their friend because it’s what we would want from them if we did something wrong.
“lol why are you following the boobs and ass artist” why do you think I’m following the boobs and ass artist. do you think I go to the grocery store ironically too
I hate you “sorry I look so gross I didn’t put on makeup before recording” I hate you digital fake lashes on every video of every woman on my fyp I hate you “natural glamor” I hate you “am I deer pretty or cat pretty” I hate you filters that shrink your nose I hate you filters that lighten your skin I hate you 12 step “no makeup” makeup routines I hate you sponsored posts and paid partnerships I hate you impossible beauty standards fueled by AND fueling capitalism I hate you I hate you I hate you I hate you
if i was the dead wife in a male protagonist’s tragic backstory my dead wife hazy memory montage would be me laughing while scrolling my own tumblr blog
i made an insensitive joke to a random at a party while absolutely wasted last night and i cant let it go!!!!!!!!!! AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA
sometimes u dont have to just say shit u can actually just be quiet 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
he RAN away from me it was soooooo bad oops oops oops
i cant be getting drunk like that to the point of having 0 filter i really thought he was gonna laugh when i insulted his neighborhood like i meant it playfully but that man didnt know me at all to know that!!!!!!!!! yikes @ me
okay heres what i need to remember: i was drunk, i will never see this person again, my friends werent mad at me and we all moved on (except me who ruminated but not visibly), i can and will watch better what i said, people say stupid shit all the time
i made an insensitive joke to a random at a party while absolutely wasted last night and i cant let it go!!!!!!!!!! AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA
sometimes u dont have to just say shit u can actually just be quiet 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
he RAN away from me it was soooooo bad oops oops oops
i cant be getting drunk like that to the point of having 0 filter i really thought he was gonna laugh when i insulted his neighborhood like i meant it playfully but that man didnt know me at all to know that!!!!!!!!! yikes @ me
